Can I be a leader?//Urvi Paralkar, M.A.




One of the many things that women have historically struggled with and continue to
struggle with is rising to positions of power and consequently being taken seriously as leaders. Although times are changing, positions of leadership continue to be dominated by men. We have either been denied these position (glass ceiling), promoted to these positions to be a scapegoat (glass escalator), treated as being invisible, or simply not acknowledged as being worthy of the position. This struggle is compounded for women with intersectional identities where layers of oppression are added to the identity of being a woman. Following suit with most social inequalities, this problematic condition has nothing to do with abilities and qualifications women bring in and everything to do with the prevailing mindset that dominates in societies across most parts of the world.

With the current epidemic of not taking women seriously, including allegations of sexual
assault, it is no surprise that women are expected to invest more time and energy thinking about how they will be perceived and what they need to do in order to be considered a leader. Whether it is academia, higher administration, or corporate work, women are sometimes expected to play the stereotype of a warm, peace loving, motherly leader. At other times, women are expected to play the role of an assertive and dominating leader. Rest assured there will be criticism irrespective of which stereotype women leaders are held to. Insubordination due to prevalent sexist attitudes is rarely factored in when evaluating women leaders.

Research shows that people prefer masculine leaders during times of war and feminine
leaders during peacetime (Van Vugt & Grabo, 2015). Although touted as being evolutionary in nature, this is a problematic discourse as it expects leaders, particularly female leaders, to behave a certain ‘right’ way. A deviation from this norm brings backlash. One of the pieces of feedback I recently heard from a female leader I admire is that women have to work twice as hard as men to be even considered for positions of leaderships. This is a narrative all too familiar for many of us. The problem with this narrative is that it disregards the notion of equality and systemic oppression by making hard work seem like the ticket to success.  

As a counseling psychology graduate student and a firm believer in advocacy efforts, I not
only admire asking questions and bringing problems to the forefront but also hold myself responsible to brainstorming solutions to problems and seeking answers that are not readily available. In thinking about navigating some of the challenges that women in leadership face today, it might be helpful to consider the following few approaches:
1.    
          Changing the way we view leadership
The current and popular notion of leadership is based on Western ethnocentric values of control, assertiveness, dominance, and aggressiveness. This notion is inherently sexist in nature, in additional to lacking a cultural framework. An alternative way of understanding leadership is through the lens of Eastern Daoist teachings that align more closely with feminist theories (Lee, Haught, Chen, & Chan; 2013). Lee, Haught, Chen, and Chan (2013) talk about ‘water-like leadership style’ as an alternative to the Western leadership approach. Water-like leadership is an Eastern leadership style that encourages leaders to be altruistic, modest, transparent, flexible, and persistent. This leadership style is called water-like leadership because the leader tries to be like water. A good leader according to this leadership style is a leader for the people, democratic, collaborative, humble, and grounded (Lee, Haught, Chen, & Chan; 2013). Water like leadership style is just one theory that offers an explanation of leadership that moves beyond traditional theories. Thus, by altering our conceptualization of what effective leadership should look like, we might be successful in minimizing the masculine standards which are often used as yardsticks for evaluation.  
2.     
          Connecting with feminist mentors
The power of mentorship cannot be overemphasized. It is significant to have role models that we can resonate with and who are sensitive to the challenges we face. Seeking out these role models, developing connections, and building a community of women who support one another is a way to buffer some of the exhaustion that can accompany women as they climb the leadership ladder.
3.      
          Emphasizing systemic barriers
When speaking about leadership, talent and capability are often highlighted. In common discourse, we hear people speaking about charisma, assertiveness, aptitude, and hard work. As much as these things matter, we need to move away from the premise that a ‘leader is born’ towards the idea that a ‘leader is made.’ However, we need to be mindful that we do not perpetuate the myth that hard work can allow everyone the opportunity to success. It’s high time that systemic barriers are highlighted and spoken about. It is time that we talk about the invisibility of women and their opinions in high stakes decisions. The focus needs to shift from “training” leaders to identifying systemic barriers that hinder women leaders from pursuing these positions in the first place.
4.      
         Talking about privilege and oppression in higher level positions
A feminist multicultural stance in workplace is not optional but imperative today. We need to facilitate more honest conversations about what we expect from our leaders and how our biases might affect those expectations. Psychology as a discipline today is more aware about feminist issues and the goal is therefore to promote these issues and causes beyond our discipline. Collaborations and outreach are an excellent way of achieving that.

Many young women are led to believe that they are not good enough, made to question their
self-efficacy and their ability to be good leaders. The aim of writing this article is to elucidate the process of oppression in leadership. My hope is that with promotion of a more feminist and strengths based approach coupled with identification of systemic barriers we can change the narrative around leadership and hopefully shift the dominant societal view.

Written by Urvi Paralkar, M.A.


References:

Lee, Y-T., Haught, H, Chen, K. & Chan, X. (2013). Examining Daoist Big-Five leadership in
cross-cultural and gender perspectives. Asian American Journal of Psychology, 4(4), 267-276.

Van Vugt, M, & Grabo, A. E. (2017). The many faces of leadership: An evolutionary-psychology
approach. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 24(6), 484-489.

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