Source: https://www.pinterest.com/NDVHotline/self-care/
While
considering a topic for this post, self-care crossed my mind many times. Each
time, I decided to try to think of something else. Self-care is a topic I have
read and talked about often, and I was unsure whether I had anything new to add
to the conversation. In the end, I returned to self-care because although it is
widely covered, it is something that many graduate students, myself included,
continue to struggle with. It is a topic discussed often, but maybe not often enough.
My self-care struggle centers on
what seems like a common concern for feminist students – learning when to say “no”.
Again, although this topic isn’t a new one, I think it is one worth revisiting.
For students interested in social
justice, there seems to be an endless amount of possible opportunities, each
one exciting in a different way. In the past, each time I was asked to join an
initiative, take on a new role, or participate in an extra-curricular activity
focused on feminism or social justice, I would say yes immediately. Saying yes
was my first instinct because I was eager for the chance to become involved
with something geared toward topics I am passionate about. Needless to say,
this strategy was not maintainable. And, even after realizing that I had taken
on too much, I often found myself continuing to say yes to new opportunities.
Now, I try to never give an answer
immediately. Instead, I try to take time– following the chart above, to slow down - to consider whether the
opportunity is something I would be able to give enough attention to, whether I
would be part of a team with others supporting the effort, whether it’s
something I could say no to for now but participate in later on, and so
on. I repeat these questions to
myself often when considering each new opportunity. In this way, my conclusion
about self-care parallels my writing process in highlighting the importance of repetition.
I have found that the more I keep self-care in the center of my attention, and
reflect on past experiences, the more I learn when to say
“no”.
Written by: Sarah Conlin, M.S.
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